I actually found it was very emancipating to do thing smyself. It is amazing how much you can get done in a day. I really resented asking and then asking again and then hearing the reasons it never got done. I'm sort of glad he is letting you down right now. It will make the divorce sting so much easier. If he was smart, he'd be painting and raking, doing all the things to make you regret losing him. I'd think of this divorce as sort of a tumor removal. Who needs a lump?