Hellfire....mine even went to the first appmt with me. and one anger management class.
My counselor often reminded me of things I would forget when all was lovey. Reality checks, I call them.
She often told me that during her first interview with us that he spoke for both of us and when she pushed her authority figure (as a test) in asking me to speak, that if looks would kill she would have been dead.
I may have been physically still alive but I was dying all the same.
We also had to address my "insanity" because I was slowly conditioned and manipulated into living in an insanity that before I would have thrown rocks at.
And I had to look at what I was doing was not sane or normal.
Love that woman!
I still owe her a box of sand to put under her desk to dig her toes in!
I sent donations.....but .....I still owe her a box of sand.
Also there are good counselors and lousy counselors. Make sure you fit and feel good with the one you work with!