Originally Posted by
liveweyerd 
I really wish I could remember off the top of my head the names of some very important books, but please see a DV counselor.
Addiction and abuse are two separate issues, that is the biggest mistake I made...I didn't recognize that. The real truth is abusive men are almost NEVER rehabilated from the topmost expert in the field working with them.
And frankly, it is common to still love them. I still love mine....and read the thread Denny has about the death of her xhusband. She never stopped loving him.
See, I thought that was required. It isn't.
Abuse escalates and you may think you have some control, but you don't.
This is all so true. It is totally possible to still love those who mistreat you.
And abuse escalates and abusers can change, but it's only 2% that do they say.
There is a book I heard of recently that is supposed to be the best book out there about abusive men. It is written by someone who counceled abusive men for many years. I haven't read it yet.
It is called "Why does he do that?" The author's name is Lundy ____ I can't remember the last name.....