Trying to fix someone is not a good road to be on. It comes naturally to children of alkies. As we mature hopefully we can change the self we became in our childhood homes, the resposible fixer. Otherwise we just repeat the pattern and pick mates (w/o even realizing it) that need fixin' too and so the pattern repeats. I don't know how old you are, but ya might wanna take a look at this and save yourself a couple of failed marriages and learn this fact early on. I wish I had. It took me 'til I was 40 to get it and 50 to master it. I hope your learning curve is quicker.