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Feeling "super responsible" is one of the characteristic of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic family. We feel so even to the point wher we think it is our reponsiblility to fix our broken family members and all their issues.
For a long time I felt I was somehow to blame for all the pain in my family and even well into my adult life I carried guilt because I was never able to "make things right" or provide more.
I did not cause my family problems and I can't "fix" them.
They will always be able to find me if they need me but I am no longer afraid to say "no" to their manipulations and guilt trips. My sense of peace is too precious to me today.