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I have been going to Al Anon since 11/2006. I have been working my program with great success - I am a much happoer person today because of my al anon family.

Last night at my meeting a member used this analogy:

My Recovery is like:
putting a jigsaw puzzle together with all the pieces wrong side up.
Any one can put the border together with a little work; sure it will take some time but will get done fairly easily. Less pieces
the hard part is the middle - all the left over pieces - it would take time & alot of hard work to finish the middle.

Well he talked about his AW but the puzzle analogy has got me thinking.....

I am thinking that my border is my alcoholic & also my decison to try Al Anon. It was a little difficult - realizing that I was married to an A & it was a little difficult to walk in to my 1st meeting. But I did it! I understand that this is a disease & I get my part that I played in all of this....so my border to me is complete because I am working my program. ------
My problem is all the other pieces - All of the middle pieces represents me. AND I am finding it very difficult to put me back together. I know that all the pieces go together but I have no idea HOW to get them all in the right spots.

Does this make any sense?

I may be a little rusty at this posting thing - it has been awhile - but I have been here reading all of your post. Just thought that I would sit back and take a vacation from my issues.

I was also told to get a sponsor!
I do want to get a sponsor but the one person that I am thinking of is male. He is living my life but in reverse and we understand eachother. All the woman in my group are great but they are parents not married to an AH. I was told that I could have a male sponsor but I don't know the rules! Do any of you know if me having a male sponsor is okay?

How did y'all choose your sponsor?

Thanks for all your input
SAGE