Teke,
I don't have time to post much since Im at work, but I can really understand what you're saying. My ex was a master manipulator, and GOD do I remember the times when I really wondered if I was crazy. He was so smooth, so charismatic, and he would tell me these stories - totally outrageous explanations that somehow ended up making sense to me at the time.... he even started reinforcing to me that I "got confused sometimes so I needed to believe what he said because IT was the truth" etc etc.
I had to take it a day at a time too... I had to make him believe that I was still buying into all the BS until I was ready to take action. I went to more meetings, reinforced myself with strong recovery friends, and ultimately was able to change my life for the better.
Trust me, you're not crazy. And you can do this. One day at a time. And we're here with you all the way, and we'll hold your hand thru the scary, dark parts.
HUGS
Cats