thanks you guys, i feel like i HAVE to wait at least about 3 wks for him to catch up on all the bills for this month. somehow, my account has been tampered with and there has to be an investigation, but for now, i just don't have a way to do much. so i'm tring not to say anything to him about much since the first day all of this happened. don't know if i can keep my mouth shut that long but i sure wished that i could get out of this house this time. all the yrs before, he has left me holding the bags, taking care of all of these kids, who i love dearly and would do it again, but this time i wished i could be the one to just leave. don't sound too motherly i know, but they already think that i've just lost my mnind and daddy is doing all he can to help me.