Your kids are lucky to have a mom who understands that her needs comes first and that they can join her whenever they want. Why should you have to put their needs first, right? It's not like you can relax when they're at school and put their needs first after school, that wouldn't work. And soccer isn't that important to them anyways. If putting a TV/VCR in your bedroom and shutting them out is what you need than you have my full support. I mean, after all, you are the woman who said her kids weren't affected by all this, right????
Don't worry, kids in Bosnia grow up in a war atmosphere and some of them don't end up with guns in their hands.
For the rest of you: Unconditional support is one thing, cheering stupidity is another.