Originally Posted by
flwrchld 
Question: when he stays out all night, then the next couple days acts as if we are happily married, tells me he loves me over and over, takes me out to dinner, acts like father of the year. Do you think he is guilty of something? He does this alot. I feel like I can't even think for myself sometimes. What is real and what is not. That part of questioning my sanity is coming out strong this morning.
For me that would be a way of hiding/covering up my guilt, in hopes that my spouse would turn the other cheek to my drinking. "Whaddya say we make nice-nice and forget about what an ***hole I am when I'm drunk?" I know that routine well, I believed she'd never leave me as long as I was trying my hardest to be a good husband and father. Sadly, it's still a behavior I'm working on in relationships today.