One of my best friends went through years of her daughter acting just like this. She too, finally got fed completely up with the rage. I only have sons, so I never saw the rage, but I guess girls are more prone to it. Much more emotional beings.
I had a lot of rage too, when I was young, but my mom was a mean alcoholic. Talk about a dysfunctional family.
I grew out of it, and so did my friends daughter. There is hope.
Even with all the craziness, it helps for me to picture a hurricaine all around me, but I am standing in the peaceful eye.
At my age, I can't take the craziness any more. It was killing me slowly.
I do hope things get better for you. It sounds like you are pretty strong.