obessed,
Like Meggie said it is not about getting over it. You are right, your husband doesn't understand. You do have a right and there is a way for you to keep living YOUR life. I am not in the same situation as you are but my life has been touched by addiction also. You have sooooo much good advice by the parents here, please try to listen to them.
BIG HUGS and PRAYERS for you...and your daughter.
Michelle