I also wanted to tell you that it is amazing how they survive. They are very resourceful people. Even if you don't help...........they find a way. As for the ex, that is easy for him to say that you just have to get over it. He is not the father and I don't know anyone who can just get over it. My opinion......you can get better and take care of yourself, but get over it, for me I can't.
Just wanted to let you know that somehow she will survive without your help.
Lo