Obsessed,
My heart hurts for you.
Hopefully you are attending Alanon, or NarAnon meetings in your area, they help SO much, and gives us strength, and wonderful support.
When my oldest was using, he also said much of the same garbage, slighting me and his father for going on a trip, and NOT giving him any money. It use to hurt my heart, until I really dug deep, and analyzed the situation. That's what addicts do.
Unfortunately.
Here's to hope that your daughter sees the light,
and craves a journey for recovery.
Big hugs to you, too.