thank you so much for the honesty and assistance with interpreting that letter! i had kind of a rough day today, but had a chat with a friend after work that helped put things in perspective - she said that any contact from me would only hinder him getting to his bottom and enable him to keep drinking. i really think (duh) he is JUST NOW realizing i am not coming back!
and thanks for the pats on the back for parenting...my son is my number one priority and has been since the day he was born. i will not allow him to be hurt by xaf drinking...thanks again!