Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
"I know now that I'm in for a world of pain and I can't get out of it because I love the woman, so I guess I have no option except to watch her destroy herself."
No, you can't get out of it because you don't love yourself. And you do have options. You just apparently enjoy watching people destroy their lives. You are suffering from the disease of codependency, and there is a cure: ALANON.
Thank you. I guess I haven't sufferered enough yet to try it. It would take time to go to the meetings and I don't want to spend the time or money right now. I know it may come to that point eventually. But, I can take a lot of pain.