Many people say here that the alcoholic/addict has to want sobriety for AA to work. That is not always true, there are some AA members who: attend meetings daily, get a sponser, work the steps, go to a therapist and still relapse. That's a sad reality and something many family members (mine included) do not want to face. Alcoholics deserve better than to be told, "you just don't want to get sober!" I have heard that it takes an average of 2-4 treatments for an alcoholic to get and stay sober.
Just something to think about, I guess.