Hi,you say that when this gift arrived that Mom was upset,and didnt want anything from him.Then when you came back,here the gift is on her wall.You have taken this---personally---.When looked at in the simpliest terms,Mom,s who is elderly likes the gift,and put it on her wall...
Your telling yourself,what things???
It was a gift between your x and her.No more no less.
My sponsor likes to tell me,,i am the problem,,lol.Family have the right to be who they are no matter if i decide to hurt myself over it,or accept them.We all do the best that we know how to,given our lives,experiences.They are not out to hurt you.They are coming from a place inside of themselves.
My family did not change.And i learned alot.I was hurting,i needed recovery,.Through recovery i changed,changed my perceptions,of them,and actually can relate to them.Forgive them.This will set you free.
my prayers are with you.