Thanks you all so much for your replies and advice. I cried when I read some of your stories, and I thought most would say leave now, I'm glad to see that there are some of you that made the decision to stay in a difficult situation. I think that I have decided to try another alanon group, and consult a lawyer about legal seperation even If I don't move out. I know I can't fix things, but am still very worried about his driving under the influence, which I'm sure he does when I am at work. He is at a very low point in his life. His mother went into the hospital today. What to do? Something's gotta give. Thanks again for your help!