(((seeking wisdom))) I cried when I read your story. I admire you for your conviction and your boundries. How you managed it all God only knows. You did right by your husband and by your sons in a very trying time for you all.What greater gift could you ever ever give your sons than what you have done for their Father at the end of his life. That you will continue to remember him to the family as the man he used to be before his illness/alcoholism speaks volumes. You gave your sons and your husband the greates gift one can give,Love.
jnn3, You have to do what is right for you.Maybe some of the posts here will help you decide.