Your going to al-anon isnt supposed to encourage him to go to AA.
Its supposed to encourage you to live a productive, happy, free life.
In other words...its all about YOU. Not him. AL-anon isnt for people who need it, its for people who want it. A better way to live, thats all. Hope, help, happiness. Choices, options...they are all ours. Hope you find some peace soon. Good luck.