Care4uNJ if he is in AA and is doing step 9 then he needs to be talking to his sponsor a bit more on making his amends, in making my amends I have apologized for my drinking, but I did not blame my wrongs on my drinking. In making amends one is to make them for all wrongs whether associated with drinking or not, and blaming it all drinking is shirking personal responsibilities. Hey look I am not going to knock the guy, he may be doing this with out a sponsor, or have gotten some poor guidance.