Hi sunkensky, always nice to see someone new on SR.
Check out this list of patterns and characteristics of codependants
http://www.codependents.org/patterns.php I never thought I had an issue with codependancy until I heard this read at a meeting, and then the evidence was staring me in the face. AA keeps me sober, CoDA and Al-Anon help me to live a full and fairly healthy life, of course I'll always be a work in progress.
One more thing. You said "I've taken the test before. I don't think three yes answers is anything definitive. I think I only have like three yes answers too. Right there on the cusp." I've learned that normal drinkers don't even ponder whether they have a problem with alcohol. It never crosses their mind. Does that make sense? Be true to thine own self.