Hi Sunkensky,
Welcome to these forums. I am a grateful recovering alcoholic and am glad to meet you.
Do a google search on codependency--being addicted to the addict/alchoholic. Not knowing her, this is what it sounds like to me.
I recognize this behavior in myself at times (I am an adult child of alcoholics) as well as my husband when I was drinking. He too (correctly) labeled me as alcoholic, but would bring home beautiful, fancy wines for me to try. My husband is also an ACOA and chose to marry an alcoholic, me. That makes him codependent, by definition.
My best advice these days is to take a look at your own behavior, whatever it may be. Only you can determine whether you have a problem with alcohol. There is a 20 Questions brochure that AA puts out that can help you decide.
http://www.step12.com/alcoholic-20-questions.html