i don't think that there is much you can do. maybe she'll just have to get tired herself first. you've offered her sr, have you suggested alanon or naranon meetings? i think that all you can do is give her info if you want to then maybe take a step back and allow her handle it the way she feels its best for her. you've done all you could for them now try to continue to take care of you. maybe detaching a little from the both of them. keeping all of you in my prayers