teke, anvil and cinder are right, you are absolutely not responsible for his using. its hard not to feel guilty but he DOES have choices and chose the wrong one, over and over again, thats his fault, not yours. i also agree with cinder about being mad, if you give into the sadness and let that overcome you it can control you, but when your mad, at least for me, its empowering. now if only I could use that empowerment for good, instead of evil thoughts of how to really screw it to AH, just kidding LOL.