Teke, I think like My MIL said to me today, you and I need to do. When we worry when we havent heard anything and/or we know they are using we need to get Mad. Mad that they arent being fathers and husbands. Mine should be out there getting his life together to win me back like he promised and if he's not I need to be mad.
Its when we get these sad feelings taht they show up, and we feel all relieves we fall upon emotions, our brains stop thinking for us and out hearts get us all tangled up again. I for one cant let that happen and I know you cant either