K, it got to the point here where no one in my family would even mention AS's name around us. At first, it hurt, but then I realized that THEY were uncomfortable. Everyone wanted to make him better, but in lieu of being able to do that, they just preferred to forget about him. After awhile, I was "glad" they didn't mention his name.
My prob now is that he is sober and no one STILL mentions him. It's as if they are all just waiting for him to relapse and that is something I am def not happy about.
But like everything else...I have absolutely no control over it, so try to just let it slide.
I am sure everyone was afraid of spoiling your day and they meant well.
****{Hugs}}} Barb