Yes, I didn't pick an alcoholic. I picked someone who acted out the cycles I was used to, a controller who I swore I wouldn't listen to but actually obeyed. He happened to have a drinking problem. And I happened to fit into what he needed for the cycle of his alcoholism too.
This is exactly how I put it to someone just this weekend.
Good thought process TG...you rock.
but I can't stop it because, get this, I don't want to disappoint them. So I wait it out until I can't anymore (like XAH) or things just run their course.
I can relate to this! I cant tell you how many relationsips Ive had that ended after I just let them 'run their course'..I didnt want to hurt anyone or disappoint them by breaking it off, so Id just let it get really bad and wait for them to leave. Problem with this last one, well..my plan didnt exactly work!
Good progress girl
Im glad you shared, it helped me today!