Why don't you meet in a more neutral environment such as a restaurant, barnes and noble, etc.? At least you won't have such an influx of personal memories clouding your judgement or concentration during your meeting. As bad as things are with my AH, our home holds a lot of good, nostalgic memories for me that would be hard to ignore, and really test my strength, if he was to come here to meet me during a similar situation as yours.
You're doing great with limiting your contact with him. It's hard, I know. I'll go 2,3,4days w/out talking to my husband and then finally answer his call. And to my surprise, he's still drunk every time I pick up. Time just seems to stand still for the active alcoholic.