Hi Laceyhearts,
I can identify with the strong emotional response you described - that was classic for me - fight with the bf - screaming match - it would end with me drinking or taking pills or both. that whole 'i'll show you, i'll hurt me' mindset.
You did the right thing by removing yourself from the situation. By choosing different responses, you will grow stronger. And maybe he'll learn something! Glad you are celebrating another sober day with us.