Ditto to what about me just said.....and then before you know what happened 20 plus years are here and gone and we are left a shell of the person we were before being married and discarded by our alcoholic spouses. And if you don't think he is capable of it?? Believe us when we say he is very capable of that and oh so much more. The lost money, time, trust and love. You will always be second to booze or beer and maybe more like in my case. He really did do you a favor and remember the 3 c's
You didn't cause it
You can't control it
You can't cure it
Keep those little feet of yours moving away from his chaos and crisis. And don't look back either.
I remember a conversation I had with my ex-father in law...he too by the way is an alcoholic...a dry drunk as he never went to AA and still has his stinkin thinkin hat on..and he was berading me and the kids for causing my XAH behavior drunk or not..I told him this: "How dare you raise a lunatic and turn him loose on society"..and ya know what hun? I meant it.