I don't know that going TONIGHT is a good idea... he sounds like this could be a dangerous thing for you.
Wait. Pray. More shall be revealed.
My sponsor tells me this all the time... and I have one very smart sponsor.
I hope you will stay with your sis tonight... get a good night's sleep. Things sometimes look different in the morning... and NOTHING can be solved tonight.
PS - He is blowing smoke ..."first degree"... first degree WHAT? Snooping? Jeeeze... yeah, like our jails are FULL of those sort of dangerous felons. Gah... don't let him do this to you, take yourself out of the picture.
((hugs))