i'm sorry that you had to find this out and that you fear saying anything to your husband, but now that you know, it might be time for you to figure out what you will do to make a better life for yourself. even if you did confront him, he still probably won't quit until he's ready. there is nothing you can do or say to make his want to stop, he has to do that on his own. you can help yourself to feel better by focusing on you and your life with him or without him. have you gone to any meetings yet? take care of you, and allow him to do the same. still praying for the both of you.