Be careful, no matter what sex.
Remember a sponsor is suppose to help you, not take
advanage you. While I might like a lot of things my sponsor
tells me sometimes..Most of the time..it's read the book,
pray, write, go home and clean house, help someone,
go to meetings, work my steps, or call him.
I've never had to mow his yard,wash his car, or paint his house.
Obviousely, I'm not going to have sex with him.
My sponsors had never forced me to do anything.
For some reason, none of them never gave me any especific
answers. Only suggestions and their experince , strength and
hope and the principles of recovery. Most of the time they
just listen to me whine and encourage me then tell me to read and
write.
Sponsorship is a two way street. In a sense, it keeps the
sponsor grounded in the program.
Also remember they are only humans and not perfect.
None of my psonors are adbrasive. I don't need
anyone screaming at me or putting me down. While my sponsors
might piont out my flaws or shortcomings...there's is a differents
of being mean or sarcastic.
You can also look for a temp sponsor