I still love whoever said, put a hula-hoop over your head, drop it down to the floor and that's ALL you have control over, within that circle. AND it's a protective boundary too that I've used repeatedly. I still use it for day to day things and when RAS gets too close for comfort. We kicked him out of the nest, the hard way when he was using and now he has to find his own way.
So far, so good, but I still have to watch my boundaries on a daily basis. That old mother instinct is difficult to fight sometimes. You know, the instinct to "fix" all their problems for them? Uh-uh, doesn't work. They need to fix their own probs.