LGLG - you sound very strong...and wary at the same time...I think that is wise knowing what you know. I can only imagine how it must make your heart sing to hear those things from your AH...and hard it must be to also feel like you must guard yourself against further heartbreak.
But you sound right on track! You know you can't control your AH's recovery, and so you're doing what you have to do to protect you and the kids. Right on.
How sweet to have that apology whispered in your ear. It sounded very sincere and tender. How wonderful to have these sane moments with your AH.