Originally Posted by
elizabeth1979 
In my experience, it didnt matter who was bailing him out or sending him money via Western Union or paying his rent or whatever.
Someone was enabling him.
He didnt care who it was.
Yep, loving someone to death. That doesnt make enabling a good thing, bc its done out of love.
I like your theory Sun..but its hard sometimes!
Exactly Elizabeth...it is hard sometimes-I know my codie thoughts kick in and I know I should not care who bails him out or enables him-but for some reason correct me if I'am wrong it does become my problem when he is out and stalking me-showing up in my face in and out of every corner-and I change my pattern, route, stay at friends etc.....so my question is since I'm somewhat new to the recovery process of all this..
I'am I crazy for thinking or caring if he is bailed out? (Not because of him but because of me and my safety?Not because of what his mother does because it is out of love and I realize that.) I guess you can say that I'm a bit flustered on this...