I also think in their manipulative minds, when we put our foot down, set a boundary and stick to it, they make us pay for it. They know the blow they deliver and it hurts but good. Here's the bad news, it hurts till it stops hurting and when it does, he has NO power in your life. He may have hooked up with this woman so fast to hurt you or to create a spirit of competion so you beg him back and get to be the winner. As the clock ticks, he must be nervous, you are supposed to be begging him back by now.