Tiburon,
I want to share what works for me because I care. I don't think people are trying to bully you. Maybe they are just trying to make conversation. I don't know.
I do know that there are all kinds of people in AA some I like alot and some I don't. There are about 50 AA meetings per day in my city and they are all different. I have asked around and found the best one's for me.
Even if I don't care for the speaker or the people, I always here something shared that enlightens me and I never leave without feeling better than when I walked in.
I always try to have an open mind and listen for something I need to here.
Maybe you could try some different meetings. I can't remember ever being asked questions aoubt my sponsor or anything else.
Good luck in your sobriety.
Carol