I talked my responses aloud to the mirror; I prefer to call it the "mirror test." Then I picked my battles. Some things I wished to say I kept to myself on the advice of my attorney. That was the hardest part because I wanted to stand there all smiley-faced and say "Hasta la vista, baby. And I won't let the door hit me in the a$$ when I leave!" I had the frequent urge to tell him I didn't like him.
I never bothered with his drinking. That was an exercise in futility. He was fiercely protective of THAT, well duh! I realized that the more I talked, the more he tuned me out so I finally just learned to shrug him off.
Difficult, considering I love to have the last word and I do have a biiiiiggggg mouth!