i couldn't keep my mouth shut.....now i am divorced.
even after i learned through al-anon to refocus on myself, his personal attacks on me, and the statements he would make....like.....' is the chicken DEAD?!" (the chicken i was serving for supper....)....well, it was just to ridiculous to let go.....
living with the alcoholic/mentally disturbed comments from my alcoholic was just too much to endure for me.
when i found myself responding with the obvious...."hell, yes, the chicken is dead, ya fool!"......the only thing i could see wrong with how i handled it, was calling him a fool......i should have thought of a much more appropriate title.
it always felt like i was dealing with a tantruming 3 year old. and always felt like he was peeing on my leg and then trying to tell me it was raining.