detaching and then having to observe....sounds like that would torture me.
i have to have it outta site. it would be like starving to death and having an all you can eat buffet right in front of you.....you can look, smell, and walk around the buffet....but no eating. yechhhhh!!!
that's one reason i'm grateful that my x is out of this county. it would be pure torture for me to see the man i love out and about town with his new woman. just couldn't work for me.