Welcome to SR lost child, the only way to break that cycle is action!
If you change nothing, nothing changes.
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.
That is the very first step, without knowing that to the depths of our very beings we can not even begin to battle the Beast I call alcoholism.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
If we really know we are powerless over alcohol, then we need to beleive that it will take a power greater then our selfs to restore our sanity. In step one we admitted we alone are powerless over the beast, if we are ever to get and stay sober, we need to beleive a power greater then our selfs can help us. This power can be as simple as the help of other alcoholics who have stopped drinking.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Okay if one has really got a beleif in steps 1 & 2, then obviously we need to listen to that Higher Power (God) as we understand him, we need to make a decision to do our best to turn our will & lifes over to this Higher Power, because if we are not willing to listen to him and do what he suggest we do then we will not be able to stop drinking.
Step 3 is a big sticker for many because so many people think that it means that you do nothing unless your HP directs/suggests you do it. That is not true, all it means is as you do things you keep your Higher Power in mind at all times and when a decision is to be made listen to him and follow his guidance.
This does not mean that you have to always follow his guidance, we are but mere human beings and there are going to be times we know what is right to do next, but we choose to ignore his guidance.
If we fail to follow his guidance does it mean we are going to drink? Yes and no.... it all depends upon what you are choosing to ignore and whether or not you keep ignoring it.
After I went through the first 3 steps above from that point forward it is all action on my part. Very long and deep subject that in reality is very simple but some how I and many others seem to make it sound complex and damn near impossible when that is the furthest thing from the truth.
For me there was a solution to my 40 years of drinking, I found it in AA.
There are other programs, but AA nor any of them will work if you do not follow the suggestions of the program.