When I came to the board over a year ago I was looking for that kind of hope. Hope that my son would recover. I am so glad no one gave me that kind of hope. Instead I was told if he kept drinking it would be "jail, institution, or death" In that year he was in jail and an institution twice. I am so glad that the focus here was on acceptance instead. I accepted "jail, institution, or death" and moved on. My hope is in my HP and that he will take care of all my needs. My hope for my son is that his HP is looking after him too. I can't hope that my son will recover and bring me happiness. It might not ever happen. I learned not to live in hope and learned to take what I have in today and run with it. Today will never come again. I will not "hope" it away.
I am so very thankful that everyone here was brutally honest with me. It changed my life.
Hugs,
MG