Let me also add that here, like your meeting, there is a core group among us that have gone to 12 step meetings for many years and/or are extremely successful in their recovery. Find and follow those people if you choose to stay.
At meetings the complaining about the A is stopped very quickly. Newcomers arrive at meetings wanting to fix their A but the structure is tighter and doesn't allow for complaining in the same way this board does.
That is why we recommend meetings...always. I am so glad you found a good one! The people who came here first and at our suggestion began to attend meetings are among the most successful...that is a fact. Meetings are the backbone. And plenty of people have found them by beginning here.
Alot of good goes on here whether you can see that or not.
Hugs,
JT
10 years goin' to meetin's and almost 2 years here.