Sunshine....
Looks like we are kind of going through the same thing.
I had a dream last night that I was able to trick my exah into going into rehab. So, this morning I had the bright idea of calling him and trying to convince him to go into rehab. Instead he ended up blaming me for his downward spiral before I was even able to get the word rehab out of my mouth. I didn't even get to discuss rehab with him.
In the end it is their life and their choices. But I understand how watching a loved one's addiction get worse can still be hurtful no matter how much we have detached and moved on. Out of sight, out of mind is not always the case.