I do understand what you are saying. I left my parents at 18, got my own place, worked and went to college at night. Both of my parents were Alcoholics, one still is at age 81, my mom. My father finally quit drinking 10 years ago, yet he still exhibits the behavior of someone who still drinks.
When I left, I left for good, never turned back. They had their life to live, I had mine. They make their choices, I make mine. I keep our relationship an arms length away, I view, but I don't participate in their insanity.
You are moving forward, keep going, one baby step at a time. Yes, you are being tested, open that recovery toolbox, and, use every tool in it, that's what they are there for.
You'll be ok, tomorrow is a new day, make it a good one.