The cool thing is that you understand what I'm asking.
ITFM, I think that a lot of it
is the choice, the fact that we want them to be there for us and they choose otherwise.
But, let me ask this then. That's supposedly our "sickness" in the equation, right? That we place our opportunity to be happy on them choosing us. Okay, so if we "codies" were in a non-alcoholic relationships, would our behaviors still be problematic? Is it our character traits?
And in the alcoholic relationship, if we practiced the tools of Al-Anon with 100% perfection, would that eliminate the hurt? I guess it comes down to much of our pain are we responsible for and how much are they responsible for? Is it all just our "sickness" or is their behavior emotionally disturbing regardless, and if so, why?
I'm just really grasping to understand this pain that we experience. ITFM, I too thought I was close to death toward the end.
Again, I know this is weird, but I think you're understanding me, so I'm continuing.
