This is not an alanon meeting. The primary purpose of this board is to be a place where people can ask questions about alanon and to encourage them to attend if they think it may help them. It's the number one piece of advice you hear on the board... "try alanon".
I love the community here and have found more hope on this board than anywhere else. Hope for me. I confess when I pleaded for hope about Dino I did not get what I wanted. No one was willing to mislead me.
I'm not really sure what the point of your post is Sasha. There have been plenty of people who were "just passin' through" when they found this board. They got directions to alanon, went or didn't, and didn't feel any need or desire to stay around. Others of us have kind of formed a community. We're friends, we talk to each other. We like new friends and we like "just visitors". If you don't get anything from reading the posts but a headache... for pete's sake don't read! If you like us and want to talk to us, stick around.
Hugs!